my 18 month old is always doing something bad either playing on the computer spitting on the carpet climbig on the table drawing on the walls or dragging stuff out when she's not supposed to and what we do for discipline is we have this monkey she's deathly afraid of and we'll say "do you want us to go get the monkey!?) or we'll just spank her but, scream or we have a time out bench that we sit her on but it seems nothings working what can i do to save my nerves!
you may consider deleting this questions IMMEDIATELY unless you want a horde of mean rude idiots saying "DONT TOUCH YOUR BABY"
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anywhoo :P
- the monkey will just torture her; later she will be attracted to horror movies, scared of monsters, and a very insecure person...probably not the best choice lol
- spanking her is effective, SAFE method. Don't "beat" her obviously , but a light tap on the bum , enough to sting so she doesn't want it to happen again.
- screaming.....eh you can't help it it's usually always gonna happen. You'll be upset. but it ALWAYS makes her respect you more if you keep a cool tone and count to three or some such , without yelling. because that teaches her she can push your buttons.
- time out bench is good!
dont worry she WILL get over this it's a phase .
I wouldn't threaten her with a monkey... The only thing that will do is give her irrational fears. It all sounds like normal behavior for an 18 month old. They are testing the limits. Just keep stopping, distract her with things she can do, and put up things she isn't supposed to touch. As for the computer, they have pretend computers for kids or you can give her an unplugged keyboard to play with. I put Microsoft word up and let my 19 month old 'spell'. Don't give her crayons or markers unless she is seated at a table or her highchair with paper and don't take your eyes off her. Put the writing utensils away when she is done. As for spitting, maybe time out will work for that.
An 18 month old is not a child that understands discipline well. Get the book "Happiest Toddler On the Block". It will help you understand what your child is going through and how NOT to discipline like you are currently doing. It's hard when they just won't listen, but if you look at it from their level, it's way easier to deal with.
She is learning how to be an acceptable human in society and the above methods of 'discipline' are not teaching her appropriate behaviour.
Look up some info or talk to someone about child development before someone gets hurt.
it sounds like your child is board,you need to sit and play with her at 18 months she would only have a small concentration span, you need to keep her entertained even when your doing boring jobs like house work give her something to do, tell her you need help(dry cloth works wonders have her wiping surfaces), please stop scaring her with the monkey how would you feel if someone keep threaten you with something you were afraid off, its not fair on her.only praise her for good behavior and ignore the bad behavior.
YES, spanking IS PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE. You should never put your hands on a baby like that. The screaming is VERBALLY ABUSIVE, and the monkey thing is MENTALLY ABUSIVE. It's absolutely NOT "funny".
All the "bad" things you described are just her being a normal mischievous toddler. The test the boundaries at this age. Get over it!
I'm pretty sure you're just some bored kid who thought this would be funny, but just in case you're not. Call social services and tell them they need to remove your child from your home immediately because you obviously don't have what it takes to be a parent.
Sounds like you are doing everything perfectly, I cannot understand what the problem would be! (TROLL)
dont spank a kid. but talk to her doctor. my son is the same and we have him in Behavural classes to see if he is a bratty 2 year old or have a son that has a real prob.
Ok so when she misbehaves you either terrify her or you hit her? Maybe you should be less worried about your nerves and more worried about the well-being of your child who you are traumatizing
I dont think by u scaring, screaming, or spanking the child will make her any better if anything it will make her rebel even more just do the timeout thing and see if it works.
Your baby is only 18 months old. You need to get a book on child development. Spanking, screaming at and scaring an 18 month old baby are all bad forms of discipline.
1) No child is 'bad'. Only bad parents
2) Your 18 month old plays on the computer? Play with her. All children go through a curious phase, it's part of growing up.
3) Hitting an 18 month old baby is unacceptable, and scaring her is just as bad. Abusing your child is not going to sort out the problem.
4) Enroll in parenting classes. You obviously don't have a clue. Being a parent is stressful, but good parents can control themselves and work out their problems.
5) Remember that being a parent is a privilege not a right. Treat your baby as the gift that she is, not a nuisance.
6) I seriously hope this question is a joke. Otherwise, I feel extremely sorry for your child and hope she turns out ok, and not totally traumatised. And I'm shocked by some on the answers here. How are other people not totally appalled by this abusive, inadequate 'mother'?
Friday, March 27, 2009
Any advice about watching a 6 month old?
I'm watching a 6 month old little girl tomorrow night. I've never met the baby, and I'm kind of nervous.
Mothers- what would you want me to ask before you leave the baby with me? This is the first time they've left the baby with a sitter and it's their first child. We live down the street so my mom is only 2 houses away, but is there anything specific that will help me make the parents more comfortable? It's only for a few hours- they're going to a wedding. Thanks!
BTW- I'm 15 and babysit a lot, but mostly for kids three and over.
I would ask about her bedtime routine - she probably has one, and it will be impt if you are putting her to bed. Also, you will probably giving her her last feeding - does she get a set amount of milk/formula, or can she have more if she still acts hungry? Are there special diapers she wears at night? Is there a way they prefer you calm her if she has trouble gonig to sleep (some people are paranoid about creating bad habits and just want you to verbally reassure, some are ok if you take baby out of the crib, etc) Hopefully the parents will tell you all of this anyway!!!
One thing you should know about this age is that they are very grabby - they will lunge for things, so anything remotely nearby them is in danger - your hair, the glass near the edge of the table, the cell phone someone left lying around. And everything will go right in their mouth! So just be careful about expecting sudden movements and about getting to dangerous items before they do!
I'm sure you will do a great job, especially since you are taking the trouble to do some preparation like this ahead of time!
Dress nice first impression is very important. When talking to the parents don't use slang. Make sure you get there cell numbers just in case. Ask them when the baby takes naps, when you should put it to bed, when to feed the baby, also ask the how to prepare the bottles if you are unsure. Also when the baby is sleeping try to not make alot of noise. Make sure not to awake the baby from a nap let the baby wake up by itself. hope i helped :)
The fact that you don't even know what kind of questions you should ask and that the questions are for the purpose of making the parents feel comfortable instead of for the knowledge of taking care of the baby makes me think you are not ready to watch a baby of this age.
feed, change diaper, play
Don't freak out if baby cries just make sure she eats if need, change the diaper if need, talk to her nice
wow, I'd never leave my two year old let alone a six month old baby with a 15 year old. no offense!!!! just my opinion on that but to answer you question...
some things to ask:
- what time does she usually go to sleep?
- is she allergic to anything?
- how much formula do i give her, how do i mix it?
- what do you do to keep her entertained?
- is there anything special done before she goes to bed? (such as story time, bath, song... etc..)
Make sure you have her parents contact information just in case anything happens!
well thats all i can think of off the top of my head, i'm sure im missing a lot.
Mothers- what would you want me to ask before you leave the baby with me? This is the first time they've left the baby with a sitter and it's their first child. We live down the street so my mom is only 2 houses away, but is there anything specific that will help me make the parents more comfortable? It's only for a few hours- they're going to a wedding. Thanks!
BTW- I'm 15 and babysit a lot, but mostly for kids three and over.
I would ask about her bedtime routine - she probably has one, and it will be impt if you are putting her to bed. Also, you will probably giving her her last feeding - does she get a set amount of milk/formula, or can she have more if she still acts hungry? Are there special diapers she wears at night? Is there a way they prefer you calm her if she has trouble gonig to sleep (some people are paranoid about creating bad habits and just want you to verbally reassure, some are ok if you take baby out of the crib, etc) Hopefully the parents will tell you all of this anyway!!!
One thing you should know about this age is that they are very grabby - they will lunge for things, so anything remotely nearby them is in danger - your hair, the glass near the edge of the table, the cell phone someone left lying around. And everything will go right in their mouth! So just be careful about expecting sudden movements and about getting to dangerous items before they do!
I'm sure you will do a great job, especially since you are taking the trouble to do some preparation like this ahead of time!
Dress nice first impression is very important. When talking to the parents don't use slang. Make sure you get there cell numbers just in case. Ask them when the baby takes naps, when you should put it to bed, when to feed the baby, also ask the how to prepare the bottles if you are unsure. Also when the baby is sleeping try to not make alot of noise. Make sure not to awake the baby from a nap let the baby wake up by itself. hope i helped :)
The fact that you don't even know what kind of questions you should ask and that the questions are for the purpose of making the parents feel comfortable instead of for the knowledge of taking care of the baby makes me think you are not ready to watch a baby of this age.
feed, change diaper, play
Don't freak out if baby cries just make sure she eats if need, change the diaper if need, talk to her nice
wow, I'd never leave my two year old let alone a six month old baby with a 15 year old. no offense!!!! just my opinion on that but to answer you question...
some things to ask:
- what time does she usually go to sleep?
- is she allergic to anything?
- how much formula do i give her, how do i mix it?
- what do you do to keep her entertained?
- is there anything special done before she goes to bed? (such as story time, bath, song... etc..)
Make sure you have her parents contact information just in case anything happens!
well thats all i can think of off the top of my head, i'm sure im missing a lot.
How about the name........?
Which do you prefer
GIRL names-
-Robin Layne
-Toni Layne
-Patricia Layne
-Emma Layne
I want the middle name to be Layne, obviously, whats a good 1st name?
TOni!!! or emma. both are cute.
Personally, the middle name is not good. Robin is too oldy, Toni is like boish, Patricia is too out of the ordinary. But Emma's OK. Not my favorite, but probably the best out of the other ones.
Toni
girl names i like
poppy
aisha
sasha
marie oh yeah nd i also like robin :)
Emma Layne
I only like Emma out of all of those..
Emma Layne is the only one I like out of these
emma layne best and most normal name
Honestly I dont like any of them, but if i had to choose it would be Emma Layne
I like Emma and Robin :o)
i dont like any of them
GIRL names-
-Robin Layne
-Toni Layne
-Patricia Layne
-Emma Layne
I want the middle name to be Layne, obviously, whats a good 1st name?
TOni!!! or emma. both are cute.
Personally, the middle name is not good. Robin is too oldy, Toni is like boish, Patricia is too out of the ordinary. But Emma's OK. Not my favorite, but probably the best out of the other ones.
Toni
girl names i like
poppy
aisha
sasha
marie oh yeah nd i also like robin :)
Emma Layne
I only like Emma out of all of those..
Emma Layne is the only one I like out of these
emma layne best and most normal name
Honestly I dont like any of them, but if i had to choose it would be Emma Layne
I like Emma and Robin :o)
i dont like any of them
My Friend is mad cause I didn
I told my friend Katie about a week ago that I liked this guy. And we started talking about our crushes and everything was good. Well today I went to my best friend's house Kate and she told me that she had a crush on this one guy. Then I told her cool and she should ask him out.Then when I told her about my crush. Then she got an e-mail from MySpace from Katie that I told her my crush. Kate was mad at me cause she said I should have told her first. I know I should be mad at Katie but Katie knew that I just told Kate who I liked. I don't know what to do now?
That was really confusing. Kate and Katie... interesting.
Anyways, you really shouldn't worry about whether Kate is mad at you or not. You don't have to tell her anything and she's mad at you for a really stupid reason. Just because you told Katie first or whatever, doesn't make you a bad friend. So really, just brush it off and don't worry about it. If she's going to be mad at you over that and hold it against you, she's not worth your time.
Aha!!! A question I finally know how to answer :) Ok so, just apologize or better yet just tell her that you didn't really know how to bring it up and you and Katie were already talking about whoever it was. In my experiance I liked the same guy my friend did, and i didn't tell her until a few weeks ago. She wasn't mad, because at that point she realized that the guy was a stupid idiot who dated worthless girls who are decked out in A&F from head to toe. Anyway, neither of us like him and we've BOTH moved on. Good Luck!!!
Don't let it worry you so much, as u say she is your best friend. And best friends do forgive, say sorry, if she doesn't accept then she is not your best friend after all. maybe she has a crush on the same guy..
does it really matter? its a dumb thing to be mad over in the first place. i think you should just tell kate or katie or whoever to grow up and get over it. there, problem solved.
Drama. Drama. Drama.
What?
how old are you guys? because this is very childish it shouldnt matter who u told first as long as she knows.
Dont worry about it.It is your choice to tell whoever you want
That was really confusing. Kate and Katie... interesting.
Anyways, you really shouldn't worry about whether Kate is mad at you or not. You don't have to tell her anything and she's mad at you for a really stupid reason. Just because you told Katie first or whatever, doesn't make you a bad friend. So really, just brush it off and don't worry about it. If she's going to be mad at you over that and hold it against you, she's not worth your time.
Aha!!! A question I finally know how to answer :) Ok so, just apologize or better yet just tell her that you didn't really know how to bring it up and you and Katie were already talking about whoever it was. In my experiance I liked the same guy my friend did, and i didn't tell her until a few weeks ago. She wasn't mad, because at that point she realized that the guy was a stupid idiot who dated worthless girls who are decked out in A&F from head to toe. Anyway, neither of us like him and we've BOTH moved on. Good Luck!!!
Don't let it worry you so much, as u say she is your best friend. And best friends do forgive, say sorry, if she doesn't accept then she is not your best friend after all. maybe she has a crush on the same guy..
does it really matter? its a dumb thing to be mad over in the first place. i think you should just tell kate or katie or whoever to grow up and get over it. there, problem solved.
Drama. Drama. Drama.
What?
how old are you guys? because this is very childish it shouldnt matter who u told first as long as she knows.
Dont worry about it.It is your choice to tell whoever you want
For all u fellow opk users i need ur help! please answer....?
I have been testing since af ended all at the same time I'm on cd22 I got a poitive opk today I was kind of shocked so I did another one 15 min later and it was neg? W.T.H. what does this mean please seriouse answers only thanks! Baby dust to all of us!
Well, your urine may have been a little too diluted to have an accurate result for you. Take another test in like four hours while trying not to drink anything or go to the bathroom. If you got the positive, you have 24-36 hours to get to baby dancing! I got my peak reading today as well. Keep in touch and let me know how things pan out for your ttc efforts. Good luck and tons of sticky baby dust!!!~*~*~*~*~*~
Well, your urine may have been a little too diluted to have an accurate result for you. Take another test in like four hours while trying not to drink anything or go to the bathroom. If you got the positive, you have 24-36 hours to get to baby dancing! I got my peak reading today as well. Keep in touch and let me know how things pan out for your ttc efforts. Good luck and tons of sticky baby dust!!!~*~*~*~*~*~
Does Provera make you ovulate?
Provera will not make you ovulate. It will only make you bleed. I have taken it 3 times this year. Clomid makes you ovulate. Most doctors will prescribe provera so that you can shed the uterine lining before taking clomid so that you can start out with a fresh cycle.
I just got done taking Provera last Saturday. I started my period yesterday so I will start taking clomid on Monday (cycle day 5). I will take it days 5-9 and then ovulation should take place 5-10 days after the last pill of clomid.
Clomid is commonly used for patients will pcos but I am taking it because I am anovulatory after stopping birth control.
I hope this clarified some things for you! Good luck.
Provera is to induce your period. It is not prescribed for ovulation. From my own personal experience, I noticed that the day of the last provera pill, I ovulated,because I had twinges in the ovary, and clear discharge. I also took an OPK and it was positive.
I just got done taking Provera last Saturday. I started my period yesterday so I will start taking clomid on Monday (cycle day 5). I will take it days 5-9 and then ovulation should take place 5-10 days after the last pill of clomid.
Clomid is commonly used for patients will pcos but I am taking it because I am anovulatory after stopping birth control.
I hope this clarified some things for you! Good luck.
Provera is to induce your period. It is not prescribed for ovulation. From my own personal experience, I noticed that the day of the last provera pill, I ovulated,because I had twinges in the ovary, and clear discharge. I also took an OPK and it was positive.
I keep expecting AF to show but she
got off the mirena IUD in January 2009. I had a normal period for February it started on the 25th till March 3rd. My cycle is usually about 30 days.
I have NOT had a period for March yet, I don't even feel like I'm ganna start anymore.
On March 18th my breasts have been sore,I have light cramps,sore abdomen, and I am exhausted all day. This week my appetite has increased and I get nauseous sometimes and my lower back kinda hurts too. I have no cm, no spotting. I ovulated on the 12th this month.
I took a hpt 3-24-09 the day my period was due it was negative.
I took another hpt today 3-27-09 and still negative I used very cheap off brand tests so I don't know if that makes a difference?
Could my period just be late I'm not stressed if it happens it will be great if not I'm not ganna be too disappointed?
Yes, your period could just be late (sadly).
After being taken off the pill over a year ago I found that my cycle was out of whack for a couple of months, this could possibly be the case for you as well.
If you still suspect you may be pregnant, wait another 1-2 weeks and test again.
Good luck and baby dust!
i was supposed to start on the 13th and its now the 27th.. ive had 5 negative pee tests... and still no sign of AF.. im in the same boat as you.. not really stressed other than negatives and no AF.. i just want her to come already... its to the point where id be ovulating again if i had her on time last month!!! its frusterating
I have NOT had a period for March yet, I don't even feel like I'm ganna start anymore.
On March 18th my breasts have been sore,I have light cramps,sore abdomen, and I am exhausted all day. This week my appetite has increased and I get nauseous sometimes and my lower back kinda hurts too. I have no cm, no spotting. I ovulated on the 12th this month.
I took a hpt 3-24-09 the day my period was due it was negative.
I took another hpt today 3-27-09 and still negative I used very cheap off brand tests so I don't know if that makes a difference?
Could my period just be late I'm not stressed if it happens it will be great if not I'm not ganna be too disappointed?
Yes, your period could just be late (sadly).
After being taken off the pill over a year ago I found that my cycle was out of whack for a couple of months, this could possibly be the case for you as well.
If you still suspect you may be pregnant, wait another 1-2 weeks and test again.
Good luck and baby dust!
i was supposed to start on the 13th and its now the 27th.. ive had 5 negative pee tests... and still no sign of AF.. im in the same boat as you.. not really stressed other than negatives and no AF.. i just want her to come already... its to the point where id be ovulating again if i had her on time last month!!! its frusterating
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