my 18 month old is always doing something bad either playing on the computer spitting on the carpet climbig on the table drawing on the walls or dragging stuff out when she's not supposed to and what we do for discipline is we have this monkey she's deathly afraid of and we'll say "do you want us to go get the monkey!?) or we'll just spank her but, scream or we have a time out bench that we sit her on but it seems nothings working what can i do to save my nerves!
you may consider deleting this questions IMMEDIATELY unless you want a horde of mean rude idiots saying "DONT TOUCH YOUR BABY"
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anywhoo :P
- the monkey will just torture her; later she will be attracted to horror movies, scared of monsters, and a very insecure person...probably not the best choice lol
- spanking her is effective, SAFE method. Don't "beat" her obviously , but a light tap on the bum , enough to sting so she doesn't want it to happen again.
- screaming.....eh you can't help it it's usually always gonna happen. You'll be upset. but it ALWAYS makes her respect you more if you keep a cool tone and count to three or some such , without yelling. because that teaches her she can push your buttons.
- time out bench is good!
dont worry she WILL get over this it's a phase .
I wouldn't threaten her with a monkey... The only thing that will do is give her irrational fears. It all sounds like normal behavior for an 18 month old. They are testing the limits. Just keep stopping, distract her with things she can do, and put up things she isn't supposed to touch. As for the computer, they have pretend computers for kids or you can give her an unplugged keyboard to play with. I put Microsoft word up and let my 19 month old 'spell'. Don't give her crayons or markers unless she is seated at a table or her highchair with paper and don't take your eyes off her. Put the writing utensils away when she is done. As for spitting, maybe time out will work for that.
An 18 month old is not a child that understands discipline well. Get the book "Happiest Toddler On the Block". It will help you understand what your child is going through and how NOT to discipline like you are currently doing. It's hard when they just won't listen, but if you look at it from their level, it's way easier to deal with.
She is learning how to be an acceptable human in society and the above methods of 'discipline' are not teaching her appropriate behaviour.
Look up some info or talk to someone about child development before someone gets hurt.
it sounds like your child is board,you need to sit and play with her at 18 months she would only have a small concentration span, you need to keep her entertained even when your doing boring jobs like house work give her something to do, tell her you need help(dry cloth works wonders have her wiping surfaces), please stop scaring her with the monkey how would you feel if someone keep threaten you with something you were afraid off, its not fair on her.only praise her for good behavior and ignore the bad behavior.
YES, spanking IS PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE. You should never put your hands on a baby like that. The screaming is VERBALLY ABUSIVE, and the monkey thing is MENTALLY ABUSIVE. It's absolutely NOT "funny".
All the "bad" things you described are just her being a normal mischievous toddler. The test the boundaries at this age. Get over it!
I'm pretty sure you're just some bored kid who thought this would be funny, but just in case you're not. Call social services and tell them they need to remove your child from your home immediately because you obviously don't have what it takes to be a parent.
Sounds like you are doing everything perfectly, I cannot understand what the problem would be! (TROLL)
dont spank a kid. but talk to her doctor. my son is the same and we have him in Behavural classes to see if he is a bratty 2 year old or have a son that has a real prob.
Ok so when she misbehaves you either terrify her or you hit her? Maybe you should be less worried about your nerves and more worried about the well-being of your child who you are traumatizing
I dont think by u scaring, screaming, or spanking the child will make her any better if anything it will make her rebel even more just do the timeout thing and see if it works.
Your baby is only 18 months old. You need to get a book on child development. Spanking, screaming at and scaring an 18 month old baby are all bad forms of discipline.
1) No child is 'bad'. Only bad parents
2) Your 18 month old plays on the computer? Play with her. All children go through a curious phase, it's part of growing up.
3) Hitting an 18 month old baby is unacceptable, and scaring her is just as bad. Abusing your child is not going to sort out the problem.
4) Enroll in parenting classes. You obviously don't have a clue. Being a parent is stressful, but good parents can control themselves and work out their problems.
5) Remember that being a parent is a privilege not a right. Treat your baby as the gift that she is, not a nuisance.
6) I seriously hope this question is a joke. Otherwise, I feel extremely sorry for your child and hope she turns out ok, and not totally traumatised. And I'm shocked by some on the answers here. How are other people not totally appalled by this abusive, inadequate 'mother'?
Friday, March 27, 2009
Any advice about watching a 6 month old?
I'm watching a 6 month old little girl tomorrow night. I've never met the baby, and I'm kind of nervous.
Mothers- what would you want me to ask before you leave the baby with me? This is the first time they've left the baby with a sitter and it's their first child. We live down the street so my mom is only 2 houses away, but is there anything specific that will help me make the parents more comfortable? It's only for a few hours- they're going to a wedding. Thanks!
BTW- I'm 15 and babysit a lot, but mostly for kids three and over.
I would ask about her bedtime routine - she probably has one, and it will be impt if you are putting her to bed. Also, you will probably giving her her last feeding - does she get a set amount of milk/formula, or can she have more if she still acts hungry? Are there special diapers she wears at night? Is there a way they prefer you calm her if she has trouble gonig to sleep (some people are paranoid about creating bad habits and just want you to verbally reassure, some are ok if you take baby out of the crib, etc) Hopefully the parents will tell you all of this anyway!!!
One thing you should know about this age is that they are very grabby - they will lunge for things, so anything remotely nearby them is in danger - your hair, the glass near the edge of the table, the cell phone someone left lying around. And everything will go right in their mouth! So just be careful about expecting sudden movements and about getting to dangerous items before they do!
I'm sure you will do a great job, especially since you are taking the trouble to do some preparation like this ahead of time!
Dress nice first impression is very important. When talking to the parents don't use slang. Make sure you get there cell numbers just in case. Ask them when the baby takes naps, when you should put it to bed, when to feed the baby, also ask the how to prepare the bottles if you are unsure. Also when the baby is sleeping try to not make alot of noise. Make sure not to awake the baby from a nap let the baby wake up by itself. hope i helped :)
The fact that you don't even know what kind of questions you should ask and that the questions are for the purpose of making the parents feel comfortable instead of for the knowledge of taking care of the baby makes me think you are not ready to watch a baby of this age.
feed, change diaper, play
Don't freak out if baby cries just make sure she eats if need, change the diaper if need, talk to her nice
wow, I'd never leave my two year old let alone a six month old baby with a 15 year old. no offense!!!! just my opinion on that but to answer you question...
some things to ask:
- what time does she usually go to sleep?
- is she allergic to anything?
- how much formula do i give her, how do i mix it?
- what do you do to keep her entertained?
- is there anything special done before she goes to bed? (such as story time, bath, song... etc..)
Make sure you have her parents contact information just in case anything happens!
well thats all i can think of off the top of my head, i'm sure im missing a lot.
Mothers- what would you want me to ask before you leave the baby with me? This is the first time they've left the baby with a sitter and it's their first child. We live down the street so my mom is only 2 houses away, but is there anything specific that will help me make the parents more comfortable? It's only for a few hours- they're going to a wedding. Thanks!
BTW- I'm 15 and babysit a lot, but mostly for kids three and over.
I would ask about her bedtime routine - she probably has one, and it will be impt if you are putting her to bed. Also, you will probably giving her her last feeding - does she get a set amount of milk/formula, or can she have more if she still acts hungry? Are there special diapers she wears at night? Is there a way they prefer you calm her if she has trouble gonig to sleep (some people are paranoid about creating bad habits and just want you to verbally reassure, some are ok if you take baby out of the crib, etc) Hopefully the parents will tell you all of this anyway!!!
One thing you should know about this age is that they are very grabby - they will lunge for things, so anything remotely nearby them is in danger - your hair, the glass near the edge of the table, the cell phone someone left lying around. And everything will go right in their mouth! So just be careful about expecting sudden movements and about getting to dangerous items before they do!
I'm sure you will do a great job, especially since you are taking the trouble to do some preparation like this ahead of time!
Dress nice first impression is very important. When talking to the parents don't use slang. Make sure you get there cell numbers just in case. Ask them when the baby takes naps, when you should put it to bed, when to feed the baby, also ask the how to prepare the bottles if you are unsure. Also when the baby is sleeping try to not make alot of noise. Make sure not to awake the baby from a nap let the baby wake up by itself. hope i helped :)
The fact that you don't even know what kind of questions you should ask and that the questions are for the purpose of making the parents feel comfortable instead of for the knowledge of taking care of the baby makes me think you are not ready to watch a baby of this age.
feed, change diaper, play
Don't freak out if baby cries just make sure she eats if need, change the diaper if need, talk to her nice
wow, I'd never leave my two year old let alone a six month old baby with a 15 year old. no offense!!!! just my opinion on that but to answer you question...
some things to ask:
- what time does she usually go to sleep?
- is she allergic to anything?
- how much formula do i give her, how do i mix it?
- what do you do to keep her entertained?
- is there anything special done before she goes to bed? (such as story time, bath, song... etc..)
Make sure you have her parents contact information just in case anything happens!
well thats all i can think of off the top of my head, i'm sure im missing a lot.
How about the name........?
Which do you prefer
GIRL names-
-Robin Layne
-Toni Layne
-Patricia Layne
-Emma Layne
I want the middle name to be Layne, obviously, whats a good 1st name?
TOni!!! or emma. both are cute.
Personally, the middle name is not good. Robin is too oldy, Toni is like boish, Patricia is too out of the ordinary. But Emma's OK. Not my favorite, but probably the best out of the other ones.
Toni
girl names i like
poppy
aisha
sasha
marie oh yeah nd i also like robin :)
Emma Layne
I only like Emma out of all of those..
Emma Layne is the only one I like out of these
emma layne best and most normal name
Honestly I dont like any of them, but if i had to choose it would be Emma Layne
I like Emma and Robin :o)
i dont like any of them
GIRL names-
-Robin Layne
-Toni Layne
-Patricia Layne
-Emma Layne
I want the middle name to be Layne, obviously, whats a good 1st name?
TOni!!! or emma. both are cute.
Personally, the middle name is not good. Robin is too oldy, Toni is like boish, Patricia is too out of the ordinary. But Emma's OK. Not my favorite, but probably the best out of the other ones.
Toni
girl names i like
poppy
aisha
sasha
marie oh yeah nd i also like robin :)
Emma Layne
I only like Emma out of all of those..
Emma Layne is the only one I like out of these
emma layne best and most normal name
Honestly I dont like any of them, but if i had to choose it would be Emma Layne
I like Emma and Robin :o)
i dont like any of them
My Friend is mad cause I didn
I told my friend Katie about a week ago that I liked this guy. And we started talking about our crushes and everything was good. Well today I went to my best friend's house Kate and she told me that she had a crush on this one guy. Then I told her cool and she should ask him out.Then when I told her about my crush. Then she got an e-mail from MySpace from Katie that I told her my crush. Kate was mad at me cause she said I should have told her first. I know I should be mad at Katie but Katie knew that I just told Kate who I liked. I don't know what to do now?
That was really confusing. Kate and Katie... interesting.
Anyways, you really shouldn't worry about whether Kate is mad at you or not. You don't have to tell her anything and she's mad at you for a really stupid reason. Just because you told Katie first or whatever, doesn't make you a bad friend. So really, just brush it off and don't worry about it. If she's going to be mad at you over that and hold it against you, she's not worth your time.
Aha!!! A question I finally know how to answer :) Ok so, just apologize or better yet just tell her that you didn't really know how to bring it up and you and Katie were already talking about whoever it was. In my experiance I liked the same guy my friend did, and i didn't tell her until a few weeks ago. She wasn't mad, because at that point she realized that the guy was a stupid idiot who dated worthless girls who are decked out in A&F from head to toe. Anyway, neither of us like him and we've BOTH moved on. Good Luck!!!
Don't let it worry you so much, as u say she is your best friend. And best friends do forgive, say sorry, if she doesn't accept then she is not your best friend after all. maybe she has a crush on the same guy..
does it really matter? its a dumb thing to be mad over in the first place. i think you should just tell kate or katie or whoever to grow up and get over it. there, problem solved.
Drama. Drama. Drama.
What?
how old are you guys? because this is very childish it shouldnt matter who u told first as long as she knows.
Dont worry about it.It is your choice to tell whoever you want
That was really confusing. Kate and Katie... interesting.
Anyways, you really shouldn't worry about whether Kate is mad at you or not. You don't have to tell her anything and she's mad at you for a really stupid reason. Just because you told Katie first or whatever, doesn't make you a bad friend. So really, just brush it off and don't worry about it. If she's going to be mad at you over that and hold it against you, she's not worth your time.
Aha!!! A question I finally know how to answer :) Ok so, just apologize or better yet just tell her that you didn't really know how to bring it up and you and Katie were already talking about whoever it was. In my experiance I liked the same guy my friend did, and i didn't tell her until a few weeks ago. She wasn't mad, because at that point she realized that the guy was a stupid idiot who dated worthless girls who are decked out in A&F from head to toe. Anyway, neither of us like him and we've BOTH moved on. Good Luck!!!
Don't let it worry you so much, as u say she is your best friend. And best friends do forgive, say sorry, if she doesn't accept then she is not your best friend after all. maybe she has a crush on the same guy..
does it really matter? its a dumb thing to be mad over in the first place. i think you should just tell kate or katie or whoever to grow up and get over it. there, problem solved.
Drama. Drama. Drama.
What?
how old are you guys? because this is very childish it shouldnt matter who u told first as long as she knows.
Dont worry about it.It is your choice to tell whoever you want
For all u fellow opk users i need ur help! please answer....?
I have been testing since af ended all at the same time I'm on cd22 I got a poitive opk today I was kind of shocked so I did another one 15 min later and it was neg? W.T.H. what does this mean please seriouse answers only thanks! Baby dust to all of us!
Well, your urine may have been a little too diluted to have an accurate result for you. Take another test in like four hours while trying not to drink anything or go to the bathroom. If you got the positive, you have 24-36 hours to get to baby dancing! I got my peak reading today as well. Keep in touch and let me know how things pan out for your ttc efforts. Good luck and tons of sticky baby dust!!!~*~*~*~*~*~
Well, your urine may have been a little too diluted to have an accurate result for you. Take another test in like four hours while trying not to drink anything or go to the bathroom. If you got the positive, you have 24-36 hours to get to baby dancing! I got my peak reading today as well. Keep in touch and let me know how things pan out for your ttc efforts. Good luck and tons of sticky baby dust!!!~*~*~*~*~*~
Does Provera make you ovulate?
Provera will not make you ovulate. It will only make you bleed. I have taken it 3 times this year. Clomid makes you ovulate. Most doctors will prescribe provera so that you can shed the uterine lining before taking clomid so that you can start out with a fresh cycle.
I just got done taking Provera last Saturday. I started my period yesterday so I will start taking clomid on Monday (cycle day 5). I will take it days 5-9 and then ovulation should take place 5-10 days after the last pill of clomid.
Clomid is commonly used for patients will pcos but I am taking it because I am anovulatory after stopping birth control.
I hope this clarified some things for you! Good luck.
Provera is to induce your period. It is not prescribed for ovulation. From my own personal experience, I noticed that the day of the last provera pill, I ovulated,because I had twinges in the ovary, and clear discharge. I also took an OPK and it was positive.
I just got done taking Provera last Saturday. I started my period yesterday so I will start taking clomid on Monday (cycle day 5). I will take it days 5-9 and then ovulation should take place 5-10 days after the last pill of clomid.
Clomid is commonly used for patients will pcos but I am taking it because I am anovulatory after stopping birth control.
I hope this clarified some things for you! Good luck.
Provera is to induce your period. It is not prescribed for ovulation. From my own personal experience, I noticed that the day of the last provera pill, I ovulated,because I had twinges in the ovary, and clear discharge. I also took an OPK and it was positive.
I keep expecting AF to show but she
got off the mirena IUD in January 2009. I had a normal period for February it started on the 25th till March 3rd. My cycle is usually about 30 days.
I have NOT had a period for March yet, I don't even feel like I'm ganna start anymore.
On March 18th my breasts have been sore,I have light cramps,sore abdomen, and I am exhausted all day. This week my appetite has increased and I get nauseous sometimes and my lower back kinda hurts too. I have no cm, no spotting. I ovulated on the 12th this month.
I took a hpt 3-24-09 the day my period was due it was negative.
I took another hpt today 3-27-09 and still negative I used very cheap off brand tests so I don't know if that makes a difference?
Could my period just be late I'm not stressed if it happens it will be great if not I'm not ganna be too disappointed?
Yes, your period could just be late (sadly).
After being taken off the pill over a year ago I found that my cycle was out of whack for a couple of months, this could possibly be the case for you as well.
If you still suspect you may be pregnant, wait another 1-2 weeks and test again.
Good luck and baby dust!
i was supposed to start on the 13th and its now the 27th.. ive had 5 negative pee tests... and still no sign of AF.. im in the same boat as you.. not really stressed other than negatives and no AF.. i just want her to come already... its to the point where id be ovulating again if i had her on time last month!!! its frusterating
I have NOT had a period for March yet, I don't even feel like I'm ganna start anymore.
On March 18th my breasts have been sore,I have light cramps,sore abdomen, and I am exhausted all day. This week my appetite has increased and I get nauseous sometimes and my lower back kinda hurts too. I have no cm, no spotting. I ovulated on the 12th this month.
I took a hpt 3-24-09 the day my period was due it was negative.
I took another hpt today 3-27-09 and still negative I used very cheap off brand tests so I don't know if that makes a difference?
Could my period just be late I'm not stressed if it happens it will be great if not I'm not ganna be too disappointed?
Yes, your period could just be late (sadly).
After being taken off the pill over a year ago I found that my cycle was out of whack for a couple of months, this could possibly be the case for you as well.
If you still suspect you may be pregnant, wait another 1-2 weeks and test again.
Good luck and baby dust!
i was supposed to start on the 13th and its now the 27th.. ive had 5 negative pee tests... and still no sign of AF.. im in the same boat as you.. not really stressed other than negatives and no AF.. i just want her to come already... its to the point where id be ovulating again if i had her on time last month!!! its frusterating
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I am 22 yr. I have never had a regular period and have been trying to get pregnant. My last period started on Dec. 15, 2008. I had nothing in Jan. and Feb. not even PMS. This month around the 15th I did however feel PMS like the visitor was coming but it never did, now my left breast hurts on and off mostly at night. I have been having all sorts of stretching and cramping feelings in my stomach, some during the day but mostly at night and i feel really hot. I am the type that could be in 90 degree weather and have a cool breeze give me goose bumps, in other words I don't get hot very easy. I have a little lower back pain. I also had a few days that my ankles where swollen. I took two hpt and both were neg., that was almost a week ago. I know that these are supposed to be preg. symptoms but it would be good to have some feed back about this. Thanks for your time!
Are you underweight for your height? Body fat percentage plays a role in whether you are getting a period or not. What has your doctor said about your very irregular schedule? Have you had blood test to see if you are anemic. Sounds like something you really need to look into with the guidance of a professional. Any of my friends who have had irregular periods were either underweight, anemic, on a strange birth control method, or under extreme stress all the time, which are all reason for an irregular cycle. Your symptoms do sound like pregnancy, but you need some blood work I think. Just my opinion, I don't know all the info to make a better judgement call. I hope you do become pregnant since this is your desire, but you need to know where your health is at before you get pregnant. Make that appointment, and get all your questions answered. Best wishes to you.
Best thing to do is try another pregnancy test. If it's still negative but you haven't started your period. Go visit you're OB/GYN and they could do blood work or perform an ultrasound. If you're not pregnant it would at least give you the chance to talk with him about the probability of you becoming pregnant and your options.
Sounds like you may well be pregnant try using a first response pregnancy test there the best or maybe go to your doctor and have a blood test. Your hormone levels may be really low as some women find that all through their pregnancy their hormone level is low but this is rare. You may be one of those women who do have the rare low levels though so your doctor will be able to tell you. Good Luck
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Are you underweight for your height? Body fat percentage plays a role in whether you are getting a period or not. What has your doctor said about your very irregular schedule? Have you had blood test to see if you are anemic. Sounds like something you really need to look into with the guidance of a professional. Any of my friends who have had irregular periods were either underweight, anemic, on a strange birth control method, or under extreme stress all the time, which are all reason for an irregular cycle. Your symptoms do sound like pregnancy, but you need some blood work I think. Just my opinion, I don't know all the info to make a better judgement call. I hope you do become pregnant since this is your desire, but you need to know where your health is at before you get pregnant. Make that appointment, and get all your questions answered. Best wishes to you.
Best thing to do is try another pregnancy test. If it's still negative but you haven't started your period. Go visit you're OB/GYN and they could do blood work or perform an ultrasound. If you're not pregnant it would at least give you the chance to talk with him about the probability of you becoming pregnant and your options.
Sounds like you may well be pregnant try using a first response pregnancy test there the best or maybe go to your doctor and have a blood test. Your hormone levels may be really low as some women find that all through their pregnancy their hormone level is low but this is rare. You may be one of those women who do have the rare low levels though so your doctor will be able to tell you. Good Luck
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People buy food from school from other kids?
ohh i dont undersand. ohhhhhhh i get ittt. if person sells food you dont know because it could have drugs in it. becareful of what you eat or buy from other people. usually its fine
haha i remember i use to bring 2 lunches and sell then in 4th grade haha that was fun, but then i got caught and they called my mom, welll it was worth it the whole year i made like 20 bucks!!
yeah. All kids think their food is bad and that someelses is much more better.
People in my school do it all the time.
Yeahh.. ppl in my school usually trade..
And your question is...????
haha i remember i use to bring 2 lunches and sell then in 4th grade haha that was fun, but then i got caught and they called my mom, welll it was worth it the whole year i made like 20 bucks!!
yeah. All kids think their food is bad and that someelses is much more better.
People in my school do it all the time.
Yeahh.. ppl in my school usually trade..
And your question is...????
Would you call the doctor on call for this, or just wait til Monday?
I am trying to conceive and am supposed to call my doctor office when I get my period so they can call in a prescription for Clomid for me, which I am supposed to start on day 3. I think my period is coming.. I have light brown discharge right now. If I do get my period tonight, then day 3 will be on Sunday. My doctors office is closed all weekend. Should I call the nurse on call to ask her to call in the prescription for me so I can start it on Sunday, or is it okay to wait until Monday which is technically day 4?
It's not a big deal to take it a day late, but I would call her today and get the prescription filled. Better to plan for your period coming and take it at the right time, rather than wait. Good luck!
Just call. The worse that will happen is that they will tell you to call back Monday.
I would call so that you would at least have it if you need it.
I would call at least you will have them if needed.
i would call. you usually have discharge before you start
It's not a big deal to take it a day late, but I would call her today and get the prescription filled. Better to plan for your period coming and take it at the right time, rather than wait. Good luck!
Just call. The worse that will happen is that they will tell you to call back Monday.
I would call so that you would at least have it if you need it.
I would call at least you will have them if needed.
i would call. you usually have discharge before you start
Friday, March 13, 2009
Why did my counselor treat this other girl be4 she treated me.?
When I was 13 i had reached a point in my life to where I was trying to commit suicide and I almost did.But when I went through counseling and met a girl who was 16 and pregnant and each time both of us got emotional with our problems she was always the first one ppl confided me they just told me how dumb I was for trying to kill myself. But no one told her what she did was stupid so that basically told me "We dont care bout youre problems" but let me ask you this why would she get more care than me when she brought life to this planet I was going to take my own?
I went on to overcome the depression three months after I took counseling and have been rided of suicidal thoughts for 5 years
I also have aspergers syndrome.
1.- Be a gentleman ladies should go first.
2.- She was Pregnant so she was carring a human being in her belly, preventing her from doing something stupid like abortion would be a priority.
3.- it wasn't correct for anyone to make you feel like you were less important.
Maybe this is just me, But I think that suicide is much more important than her being pregnant. I'm not saying that you're any better than she is, nor that you're any less. But you have just as much right to help as she does. Plus, depression is something you can't help. She knew what she was doing, unless she was raped, that's a different story. I am very glad to hear that you are doing better now. I am currently trying to help my boyfriend through his depression, while battling my own.
Probably because to society, things like girls being pregnant are more important, because it makes society "look bad". It's bullshit, I think your situation should be more important, you have a social syndrome that you have no control over, causing you depression and suicidal thoughts...and they pay more attention to this girl that got pregnant on her own accords, and had a choice.
Anyway, it's great that you pretty much overcame your depression through self reliance. That's a big accomplishment. F*ck that counselor.
I don't know that I have an definitive answer to your question. Counselors are people, too, and sometimes they are affected by their own emotions. I don't think it was a prejudice against you personally, but perhaps your counselor felt she could deal with this other person more quickly. It sounds like you were in group therapy? Very often, the counselor goes along with where the feelings of the group lead. Its why I personally do not like group counseling.
I'm sorry you felt no one cared about you. Human beings tend to take the path of least resistance and maybe her problem was easier than yours. Its not that they didn't care about you. I'm glad you received the more individual counseling you needed and you're here to ask this question.
Teen pregnancy is probably much more accepted than teen suicide. Any cry for help, any mention of suicide, and any suicide attempt should be taken seriously. Some people don't see it, don't know how to help, or don't want to help. I'm glad you're doing better now :o).
I went on to overcome the depression three months after I took counseling and have been rided of suicidal thoughts for 5 years
I also have aspergers syndrome.
1.- Be a gentleman ladies should go first.
2.- She was Pregnant so she was carring a human being in her belly, preventing her from doing something stupid like abortion would be a priority.
3.- it wasn't correct for anyone to make you feel like you were less important.
Maybe this is just me, But I think that suicide is much more important than her being pregnant. I'm not saying that you're any better than she is, nor that you're any less. But you have just as much right to help as she does. Plus, depression is something you can't help. She knew what she was doing, unless she was raped, that's a different story. I am very glad to hear that you are doing better now. I am currently trying to help my boyfriend through his depression, while battling my own.
Probably because to society, things like girls being pregnant are more important, because it makes society "look bad". It's bullshit, I think your situation should be more important, you have a social syndrome that you have no control over, causing you depression and suicidal thoughts...and they pay more attention to this girl that got pregnant on her own accords, and had a choice.
Anyway, it's great that you pretty much overcame your depression through self reliance. That's a big accomplishment. F*ck that counselor.
I don't know that I have an definitive answer to your question. Counselors are people, too, and sometimes they are affected by their own emotions. I don't think it was a prejudice against you personally, but perhaps your counselor felt she could deal with this other person more quickly. It sounds like you were in group therapy? Very often, the counselor goes along with where the feelings of the group lead. Its why I personally do not like group counseling.
I'm sorry you felt no one cared about you. Human beings tend to take the path of least resistance and maybe her problem was easier than yours. Its not that they didn't care about you. I'm glad you received the more individual counseling you needed and you're here to ask this question.
Teen pregnancy is probably much more accepted than teen suicide. Any cry for help, any mention of suicide, and any suicide attempt should be taken seriously. Some people don't see it, don't know how to help, or don't want to help. I'm glad you're doing better now :o).
How can I change my pic?
lol. Ok I don't want to use an avatar. And I went to my 360 page put pics on there and then edited my answers page and picked use 360 photo. But it still isn't working. Any suggestions?
I noticed when I did this at first it took awhile for it to load(probably about 24 hours).
As long as you did everything correctly it'll pop up within the next day or so.
I have this problem too. I set my 360 page with a photo and it shows up when I go to the Home page (if I were to comment on an article for example) but on Answers it still hasn't shown up. And it's been a couple of months now, lol.
It took 2 days for me last time i changed it.
Supposedly were supposed to be able to change it right from here soon. Instantly. :D
go to yahoo 360 when editing photos you need to set the pic you want as a default pic :)
Make sure that after you upload it that it is selected to be the icon.
I noticed when I did this at first it took awhile for it to load(probably about 24 hours).
As long as you did everything correctly it'll pop up within the next day or so.
I have this problem too. I set my 360 page with a photo and it shows up when I go to the Home page (if I were to comment on an article for example) but on Answers it still hasn't shown up. And it's been a couple of months now, lol.
It took 2 days for me last time i changed it.
Supposedly were supposed to be able to change it right from here soon. Instantly. :D
go to yahoo 360 when editing photos you need to set the pic you want as a default pic :)
Make sure that after you upload it that it is selected to be the icon.
Did my son
What does it mean when wax comes dripping out of your ear?
my 2 yr old had fever yesterday..today fever is gone..no pain,eating and peeing and wax is coming out gooey and yellow and icky..goes to dr. in hr
Honestly his fever may have loosened up the ear wax enough to let it seep out. One of my girls has the worst ear wax issues, I wouldn't worry about it!
I don't think it exploded they would be in a great deal of pain and discomfort. Trust me I have had chronic ear infections from the time I was an infant. I had tubes twice and punctured my ear drum diving. I am no expert but but taking them to the Doc will put your mind at ease. I will keep you both in my thoughts.
oh.. he could have a very bad ear infection.. or something could be wrong with his ear drum. i remember a friend of my mother's child busted her own ear drum and it oozed wax looking stuff and all that icky you're talking about.
but it could just be an ear infection!
good luck and i hope your little one gets better soon.
Probably just waxy build-up exiting the ear canal. It's the ears natural way to cleanse itself.
If the ear drum exploded there would be a small amount of crusty blood on his pillow (if it happened overnight) with some crusty blood on his earlobe and possibly some hair.
Ask him if it hurts,if it does he needs to see his pediatrician at this point.
If there is no blood or pain then I doubt his ear drum exploded.
my ear drum busted when i was about 5 and there was blood everywhere. I dont think its that.
my 2 yr old had fever yesterday..today fever is gone..no pain,eating and peeing and wax is coming out gooey and yellow and icky..goes to dr. in hr
Honestly his fever may have loosened up the ear wax enough to let it seep out. One of my girls has the worst ear wax issues, I wouldn't worry about it!
I don't think it exploded they would be in a great deal of pain and discomfort. Trust me I have had chronic ear infections from the time I was an infant. I had tubes twice and punctured my ear drum diving. I am no expert but but taking them to the Doc will put your mind at ease. I will keep you both in my thoughts.
oh.. he could have a very bad ear infection.. or something could be wrong with his ear drum. i remember a friend of my mother's child busted her own ear drum and it oozed wax looking stuff and all that icky you're talking about.
but it could just be an ear infection!
good luck and i hope your little one gets better soon.
Probably just waxy build-up exiting the ear canal. It's the ears natural way to cleanse itself.
If the ear drum exploded there would be a small amount of crusty blood on his pillow (if it happened overnight) with some crusty blood on his earlobe and possibly some hair.
Ask him if it hurts,if it does he needs to see his pediatrician at this point.
If there is no blood or pain then I doubt his ear drum exploded.
my ear drum busted when i was about 5 and there was blood everywhere. I dont think its that.
Okay. So I am going out with my guy best-friend. It is still in the air if my Best-Friend is going to go and it is in the air if his Best-friend is going to go. I seriously don't want to go with him without my Best-friend. what do I do? I can't back out I already made a promise to go.
Only you know how you feel about this situation. If you cannot find another girlfriend to go with you, you can inquire(call) if your guy friend will be accompanied by his friend. Then you can decide. You just want to have a nice time, and it turns out to be a big decision. Social situations are not always easy.
Have a good time!
Why don't you ask another friend of yours (a girl) to go with you? If not, it's just a movie, not much talking, so it shouldn't be too bad,
Ask one of your she friends to go with you and you will be going as a group.
just go, and dont give him signs that you like him.
Only you know how you feel about this situation. If you cannot find another girlfriend to go with you, you can inquire(call) if your guy friend will be accompanied by his friend. Then you can decide. You just want to have a nice time, and it turns out to be a big decision. Social situations are not always easy.
Have a good time!
Why don't you ask another friend of yours (a girl) to go with you? If not, it's just a movie, not much talking, so it shouldn't be too bad,
Ask one of your she friends to go with you and you will be going as a group.
just go, and dont give him signs that you like him.
When did this happen to you?
I am now 6 months pregnant and i didn't start getting sore breasts and nipples until i was 2 months. Is that normal or when did YOU get sore breasts. also, when are you nipples suppose to start leaking, they haven't yet, if i squeeze them, i see some come out but when i was pregnant with my first, it started around 5-6 months and i had to wear pads in my bra it was so much, but not this time, why?
Thank you to those who answer!
each pregnancy and each woman is different. With my first I didn't get sore breasts until they started leaking around 2 months in. With my current pregnancy I'm 4 months and have had no leakage but my breasts started hurting before I even got a positive. They stopped hurting at about 7 weeks btw.
Every pregnancy is different. You are fine.
I didn't have any sore nipples during my pregnancy. I started the leaking about a few weeks prior to my baby' girl delivery. I was 2 days away from being 28 weeks when she was born. It wasn't a lot, usually a hot shower made me realize it. I didn't have to wear pads in my bra yet because it only a few spots and didn't leak into my shirts.
Now that I've been pumping and getting milk and all that to take to the NICU for my baby, my nipples are sometimes sore, when I'm not even doing it!
The leaking has gotten a little worse since I began pumping. It's occasionally and when it happens it really leaks through my shirts then.
I'm sure you heard that every pregnancy for each woman differs. No woman will have the same pregnancy twice, or so they say anyway. This is my first pregnancy so I really don't know how true that statement is :).
My breasts were sore for the first month or so I was pregnant, then they didn't bother me any more. Also, my milk didn't come in until after my daughter was born. It's perfectly normal not to have milk until right before or even after your baby is born.
Every women is different. Mine were sore on and off throughout my pregnancy.
You aren't supposed to start leaking at any time, sometimes it happens early, sometimes not until your milk comes in.
I never had sore breasts/nipples when pregnant. My breasts started leaking when i was 16 weeks pregnant.
I got sore breast around 5 weeks, and my boobs never leaked. Every pregnancy id different.
2 months
Thank you to those who answer!
each pregnancy and each woman is different. With my first I didn't get sore breasts until they started leaking around 2 months in. With my current pregnancy I'm 4 months and have had no leakage but my breasts started hurting before I even got a positive. They stopped hurting at about 7 weeks btw.
Every pregnancy is different. You are fine.
I didn't have any sore nipples during my pregnancy. I started the leaking about a few weeks prior to my baby' girl delivery. I was 2 days away from being 28 weeks when she was born. It wasn't a lot, usually a hot shower made me realize it. I didn't have to wear pads in my bra yet because it only a few spots and didn't leak into my shirts.
Now that I've been pumping and getting milk and all that to take to the NICU for my baby, my nipples are sometimes sore, when I'm not even doing it!
The leaking has gotten a little worse since I began pumping. It's occasionally and when it happens it really leaks through my shirts then.
I'm sure you heard that every pregnancy for each woman differs. No woman will have the same pregnancy twice, or so they say anyway. This is my first pregnancy so I really don't know how true that statement is :).
My breasts were sore for the first month or so I was pregnant, then they didn't bother me any more. Also, my milk didn't come in until after my daughter was born. It's perfectly normal not to have milk until right before or even after your baby is born.
Every women is different. Mine were sore on and off throughout my pregnancy.
You aren't supposed to start leaking at any time, sometimes it happens early, sometimes not until your milk comes in.
I never had sore breasts/nipples when pregnant. My breasts started leaking when i was 16 weeks pregnant.
I got sore breast around 5 weeks, and my boobs never leaked. Every pregnancy id different.
2 months
Need helps with middle names for our son! Please help ?
My husband & I are naming our son after my father in law. Our son is going to be named
Visith Songkharm
Visith is pronounced Vis-sid.
But we want our son to have an American middle name. Any ideas??
Thanks!
I think you should consider all of these answers as first names and make Visith a middle name.
Congrats!
Visith Alexander Songkharm
Visith Lucien Songkharm
Andrew (Andy for short)
Anthony or Antony (Tony for short)
Edward (Eddie or Ed for short)
Aaron (Ron for short)
Irvin
Alex (Al for short)
Eric (Ric{k} for short)
Visith Michael
Visith Adam
Visith Dean
Visith Matthew
Visith Nathaniel
Visith Jacob
Visith Daniel
Anthony
Joseph
Carlson
Mason
Jared
Cole
Dylan
Jack
Patrick
Luke
Logan
Chase
Braxton
Adam
Mark
Austin
Franklin is a good American name.
donovan??
Colton
Kevin
Ryan
Jack
John
Jacob
Lee
Joseph
Cole?
what about James .... it goes with his name nicely
Visith Songkharm
Visith is pronounced Vis-sid.
But we want our son to have an American middle name. Any ideas??
Thanks!
I think you should consider all of these answers as first names and make Visith a middle name.
Congrats!
Visith Alexander Songkharm
Visith Lucien Songkharm
Andrew (Andy for short)
Anthony or Antony (Tony for short)
Edward (Eddie or Ed for short)
Aaron (Ron for short)
Irvin
Alex (Al for short)
Eric (Ric{k} for short)
Visith Michael
Visith Adam
Visith Dean
Visith Matthew
Visith Nathaniel
Visith Jacob
Visith Daniel
Anthony
Joseph
Carlson
Mason
Jared
Cole
Dylan
Jack
Patrick
Luke
Logan
Chase
Braxton
Adam
Mark
Austin
Franklin is a good American name.
donovan??
Colton
Kevin
Ryan
Jack
John
Jacob
Lee
Joseph
Cole?
what about James .... it goes with his name nicely
What do you do to relieve stress?
Stay at home parents.. what do you do to relive the angry or stress? I am a single stay at home momma who is very thankful for my sons nap times!!!
Well depends on how old your child is. As an infant thank god for the swing and bouncy seat or i would have never gotten anything done! As for toddlers, mine pretty much occupied themselves alot during the day through playing with their toys...i would go outside for a certin amount of time each day with them etc. I lived for a set bed time. I never did schedules during the day cause it never worked but i did have a time for bed and this way i have some time to myself to get what i need done or to take a nice relaxing bath or to simply watch my shows on tv.
When, and ONLY when my husband comes home - I have a nice big glass of wine. He takes our daughter and feeds her and mommy gets to relax with her wine and then a nice hot shower.
Also, during the day I go for walks. I take her with me of course (in her stroller) but walking really does alleviate stress. I hope this helps.
Wow, how are you so blessed? You're single but you still get to stay home with your son!? You're really lucky! Do you have family supporting you or something? I always clean when I'm upset or stressed, there's nothing more invigorating then taking my anger out on my dirty floors. :)
I read, clean, and when my daughter screamed a lot with colic I would put on my ipod and have her in my arms to rock her.
Baths are nice too!
Percoset and a good movie.
And if I'm lucky I can do that on a night when a family member offers to babysit for the night :D
I come on here. It helps a lot somedays. Other than that, I work out when I'm stressed.
Well depends on how old your child is. As an infant thank god for the swing and bouncy seat or i would have never gotten anything done! As for toddlers, mine pretty much occupied themselves alot during the day through playing with their toys...i would go outside for a certin amount of time each day with them etc. I lived for a set bed time. I never did schedules during the day cause it never worked but i did have a time for bed and this way i have some time to myself to get what i need done or to take a nice relaxing bath or to simply watch my shows on tv.
When, and ONLY when my husband comes home - I have a nice big glass of wine. He takes our daughter and feeds her and mommy gets to relax with her wine and then a nice hot shower.
Also, during the day I go for walks. I take her with me of course (in her stroller) but walking really does alleviate stress. I hope this helps.
Wow, how are you so blessed? You're single but you still get to stay home with your son!? You're really lucky! Do you have family supporting you or something? I always clean when I'm upset or stressed, there's nothing more invigorating then taking my anger out on my dirty floors. :)
I read, clean, and when my daughter screamed a lot with colic I would put on my ipod and have her in my arms to rock her.
Baths are nice too!
Percoset and a good movie.
And if I'm lucky I can do that on a night when a family member offers to babysit for the night :D
I come on here. It helps a lot somedays. Other than that, I work out when I'm stressed.
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